Of course your children have to go to school whether they want to or not. But what do you do if they blatantly refuse to? While you can just force their hand, it is far more pleasant for you if they don’t hate school and everyone can live in some semblance of harmony. What’s more; a hatred of school could indicate a problem somewhere in their daily life which, when addressed, can improve their quality of life immensely.
Talking to your child openly is the best way to find out what’s going on that’s making them so reluctant to go to school. To make sure they can tell you precisely what is troubling them, you may need to approach them in a very loose, relaxed way so they don’t feel they will get into trouble for telling you the truth. While this may seem silly, it’s important to realise that children have an ill-formed sense of right and wrong, and may not be quite clear on what is or isn’t a reason to be told off.
If your child is being bullied, which is a popular reason not to want to go to school, you’ll need to address the issue with the school. Your child’s teacher or teachers, as well as the school administration, can cooperate to take steps to prevent bullying from happening in future and will need to be able to provide some support to your child, helping them cope with anything that has occurred or occurs in the future. If they are being picked on for an outward issue such as clothing that is shabby-looking or a poor haircut, you can obviously remedy this by altering the situation, but make sure you stress the fact that their appearance is secondary to their inner beauty.
Sometimes, children are unhappy to go to school because they feel they are unable to keep up with the material. Don’t see this as a problem with their level of intelligence; intelligence truly comes in many forms. Tutoring may help them, but even an hour sitting down with a parent to help every evening can make a gigantic difference to your child’s academic confidence. If literacy is an issue, let him or her read aloud to you. Come up with good reasons; for example, your child could help you cook by reading the cookbook, or help you find out what to watch on television by reading the guide to you. Reading out loud allows you to help your child figure out how to pronounce difficult words and plays a vital role in the development of literacy.
In any case, making sure your child feels heard and supported, as well as introducing specific measures allowing him or her to feel the reason they hate school is being addressed, means you can do something about the poor quality of life your child is experiencing at school and turn those wasted days around.