For the other 364 days of the year, you relish the fact that you are single, but somehow, when it gets to Valentine’s Day, all bets are off, and you fall into a deep depression, wondering if you’ll ever find your true love. But don’t despair, you’re in good company. With more and more people choosing to live alone and divorce rates beating marriage ones hands down, being single is de-rigueur. Hard to see that however, when everywhere you turn you see shops flooded with hearts and flowers aimed at smug, loved up couples that only serve to mock your singledom. But this year, instead of wallowing in self pity, why not make Valentine’s Day special for you, using these simple tips:
If it gets to Valentine’s Day and you find yourself with nothing to do, then whose fault is it? Make a plan and get organised if you really do not want to be on your own on this day. If you want to go out on a date, don’t wait for someone to ask you out, it’s 2012 for goodness sake! Get on the phone and ring around. Even if it is just a dinner date with a male friend, call them. But make sure it is something you want to do, rather than a last resort type of arrangement.
Spend time with Family
Thinking about the future when you may well be in a relationship, you probably will not have time to spend with your family on this day. So use it to your advantage and spend the time with them now. Take your parents out for a meal and make it special for them. Or just visit them for the day. Why not treat your mum to a shopping trip, take your dad to the cinema and let him choose the film. It’s your chance to be altruistic for a change.
Throw an Anti-Valentines Party
If you know a few single mates and they are up for it, throw your very own anti valentine’s party. Take it to the local pub or club and dress up in cupid outfits, or devils and angels costumes. If you are having it at home, mix up some anti love cocktails and have a prize for the best one. Compile a playlist of love songs that make you cry! Make it such a great party that your cosy couple friends will want to have attended.
Count your Blessings
Those people that are single can quite mistakenly think that all couples are having the best time, romantically on Valentine’s Day. But this is not the case. Typically for many couples it is just another day for the card and gift companies to make a huge profit on selling overpriced flowers and merchandise for one day of the year. So be grateful that you are not getting swept away in the fever of forking out for expensive cheap rubbish, just to save face with their partner.
If you really want to ignore everything about Valentine’s Day, then why not use it as an excuse to spoil yourself. Book yourself in for some spa treatments, go and have your hair cut, treat yourself to a shopping trip and buy yourself little gifts like some bathroom smellies or go the whole hog and get yourself a new frock! Whatever you do, make the day different and do the things that you love to do, even if it means just loafing about on the sofa with your favourite dvd and a box of chocolates.
Relish your Independence
Finally, be happy that at this point in your life you are single. There’s plenty of time in the future to be tied down to one person for the rest of your life. For now, you can do whatever you want to with no one to tell you otherwise. You can eat what you want when you want, you can go to bed whatever time you like, and you can party until the small hours and not tiptoe back into the house. It’s great being single, isn’t it?!