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How to Write the Perfect Dating Profile

By: Janey Davies on December 21, 2012 @ 9:04 pm

Now I’m no expert, but I’ve read enough dating profiles to know what is a good one and what is one that will get nil responses. And bearing in mind, that after looking at the picture of the person in question, what is written in the profile really is what will get you an email, wink, whisper or nudge from your intended target audience. So what you write down in those few paragraphs is of major importance. It is the window into your world, your life and what sort of person you are. Write down a load of achievements and little else and you’ll come across as arrogant. Leave out anything personal and you’ll appear cool and aloof. Lie on your profile and you’ll soon get found out! So what are the rules when you are writing a dating profile and how can you present your best side without falling into any of the above traps? Follow these tips that’s how:

Be truthful

Always tell the truth but don’t get bogged down with the minutiae of life. Keep to the interesting parts of your life story, imagine writing your profile as if you are being interviewed for a special job and make it fresh and lively. Put in all the stories that men/women will find engaging about you but don’t be afraid to be a little self deprecating too.

What are you passionate about?

Passion is a very attractive quality so if you have one then write about it. For instance, if every summer you go off for a month and go snow boarding then write that in your profile, or if you love ancient art history and spend your free time touring art galleries and museums put that down. Anything you are involved in basically that you could not live without, even if it is something you’d consider ordinary such as reading, if you love it tell others about it.

Use humour

Men and women love to laugh and if you have a natural gift of being able to make people laugh then use it on your profile. And I do not mean just saying ‘I have a great sense of humour’, make your profile humourous by what you write. Use life experiences to enhance and make your profile funny, tell readers about funny happenings and plead that they don’t occur again. Don’t be afraid to look a little silly and be able to laugh at yourself, these are all great qualities.

Be honest in what you are looking for

There’s no point going to all the trouble of writing up a profile if you are going to be dishonest at the last minute and spoil it all. If you are not after a long term relationship then don’t pretend you are just because you want a few dates. If the site you are going on has a fairly tight knit forum and community, word will get around and you’ll be outed! So be honest up front about what it is you want, you’ll be respected for it in the long run and you never know, you may find someone who is immediately on your wave length.

Spell check!

I cannot emphasise this point enough. In this day and age, even if you are the world’s worst speller, there is spell check on every pc so you really have no excuse. And when I was frequenting dating sites, it mattered not how cute the guy was or how funny and handsome he appeared, if there were a few spelling mistakes he was kicked to the curb! They stick out like a sore thumb to many people and yes, you may plead that you are dyslexic but take heed of the red wobbly line underneath those words that just don’t look right. Someone is trying to tell you something!

Finally,

Don’t promise what you can’t deliver. Sounds simple right but you’d be surprised at how many men and women fall into this trap when they write their profiles, thinking they are writing it to the love of their lives and promising all sorts of ridiculous things. Keep it simple, easy going, promise nothing but a laugh and a bit of fun and to ‘see where it goes’ and you’ll stay out of trouble.


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